One very strange part of the ‘grass is greener’ mentality is the ‘grass is browner’ mentality. I refer to this frequently as the Eeyore mentality. You know, Eeyore (say it with your best Milne British accent: ‘Eeyowe’) the gloomy donkey from the Winnie the Pooh books. “Why bother”, “nobody likes me”, “her garden is better than mine”, etc. We all know an Eeyore; the ‘woe is me’ type of person who is always dissatisfied with what is going on in their own yard and garden. She looks over the fence regularly to just make sure her neighbors grass is still greener, while hers continues to wither. We all get caught being an Eeyore now and again. Instead of looking at the good stuff we DO have, we focus on the negatives in our own yard, which by default makes everyone else’s grass LOOK greener.
Have you ever been an Eeyore? Have you ever said, “Oh, bother…I don’t want to go to work today because _____________” . In this blank you can insert almost any excuse in the world. I’ll give you a few that I have heard before: I’m tired; I have so much personal stuff to do; I have a hangover; I didn’t sleep well; the weather is (too hot, cold, rainy, gloomy, icy, snowy). Yes, there are some perfectly good reasons to stay home sometimes! Sometimes it is too icy. Sometimes you are really sick. Sometimes you have infants and they were up all night long and you had zero sleep and you just shouldn’t even be on the road. I would say these true reasons make up about 5% of the times most people stay home. “Mental health days” and other things make up the majority of reasons for a majority of people. I do know that we are all amazing women, and these do not reflect our own attitudes.
There are some people who could make excuses to not work, and we know very many do. Yet, they work harder to keep their jobs and maintain their independence without bemoaning the grass in their lawn. They just take care of it, to the best of their abilities.
Today’s Challenge: 1. Think back to a time when you were an ‘Eeyore’ or to a time when you made excuses. 2. What was the outcome? What could the outcome have been if you would have been more positive, or NOT made the excuse? 3. Pay attention today to those behaviors that sound like braying negativity or if you start to make excuses. 4. Bray like a donkey when you catch yourself. Yep, that’s right, Eeyore. Give a good ‘eeyowe’ or ‘heehaw’ sound. Make sure to really emphasize the first syllable. 5. Redirect yourself. Think about John in the story. Put a positive spin on the situation, or quit making excuses. Tend to your withering grass and make it beautiful.
“A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.” ~ Eeyore